If you’ve been around long, you know “small things with great love” is kind of our M.O. here at Solly Baby. Grand gestures can feel exciting, but it’s the everyday efforts that are often most meaningful when it comes to conveying our affection and appreciation. Because they’re often overlooked, we decided to list out a few (okay, many) examples of these tiny acts of kindness. A lot of them you are probably already part of your repertoire—brava! We hope it feels good to acknowledge all the ways in which you sow your love daily.

Here are simple things to show love daily:

Ways to show love to your partner

1. Send them a text midday to let them know you’re thinking about them.
2. Ask how their meeting/presentation/lunch/workout went (and then listen for the answer).
3. Replace the toothbrushes or put a fresh bar of soap in the shower.
4. Ask them if they’re free for a date night on Friday
5. Tell them how much you enjoyed the dinner they cooked.
6. Rave about how good they are at X to your friends/neighbors/parents.
7. Remember what they like on their sandwich and surprise them with lunch from your local deli.
8. Take five minutes to sit and talk without doing anything else (bonus if you don’t discuss any logistics!).
9. Top up their car with gas.
10. Send them a song you know they’ll like.
11. Tuck a note into their suitcase before their business trip.
12. Kiss them goodbye before you head out the door.
13. Admire aloud what a good parent they are.
14. Send them a throwback photo from early in your relationship.
15. Admit you were wrong.
16. Appreciate them loading the dishwasher (even if they didn’t arrange the glasses quite the way you would).
17. Hold their hand on a family walk.
18. Share a sweet/funny story about when you first met.
19. Ask them to take a photo with you.
20. Hug them close and mean it.

Ways to show love to your bestie

1. Drop off an iced coffee the morning after she’s had a hard night.
2. Text her while you’re at Target to see if she needs anything.
3. When she says “no” but you pick up some hand soap with pretty branding and some infant gas drops anyway.
4. Snuggle her babies.
5. Fold her laundry while she naps.
6. Reply with the perfect meme.
7. Check in to see how the appointment went.
8. Extend an impromptu invite to meet at the park—just in case she’s needing a way to pass the witching hour, too.
9. Watch her kiddos in a pinch during a last-minute meeting.
10. When you’re vulnerable.
11. When you hold space for her.
12. Drop off pastries the morning after she comes home from the hospital.
13. Tell her what a beautiful mother she is.
14. Wait patiently when she’s running late.
15. Invite her over for delivery pizza and boxed wine.
16. Lend her something to wear to that important event.
17. Let her see you’re imperfect, too.
18. When you cry with her.
19. Water her plants while she’s out of town.
20. Keep an eye out for her kiddos on the playground.

Ways to show love to your baby/children

1. Read to them.
2. Cuddle them.
3. Wash their laundry.
4. Provide a meal for them.
5. Sing to them.
6. Write in their baby book.
7. Narrate your day to them.
8. Trim their nails.
9. Blow raspberries on their bellies during diaper changes.
10. Get up with them at all hours of the night.
11. Tour daycares to find the perfect one.
12. Leave them with a sitter so you can be the best version of yourself.
13. Tend to your relationship with your partner.
14. Learn their subtle preferences.
15. Wear them in the wrap.
16. When you deal with their blowout.
17. When you look them in the eye.
18. Bring them with you to check the mail.
19. Pause in the middle of cooking dinner to tell them you love them.
20. Pick up the toy they dropped for the hundredth time.

To yourself

1. Take the time to stretch.
2. Give yourself grace.
3. Thank your body for all it’s done.
4. Write in a journal.
5. Read a book.
6. Talk aloud to yourself.
7. Have an inside joke with yourself.
8. Make yourself a meal you love.
9. Pass off baby to your partner or friend so you can have a minute.
10. Make and keep your postpartum appointment.
11. Answer honestly about how you’re feeling postpartum.
12. Buy a couple pairs of pants that fit.
13. Prioritize sleep.
14. Make a plan to see a friend.
15. Speak kindly to yourself (whether aloud or in your head).
16. Set goals and dream.
17. Sit outside and close your eyes and feel the sun on your face.
18. Wear sunscreen.
19. Do something you want to do.
20. When you say “no.”
21. When you set boundaries.
22. Buy yourself flowers.