What To Expect When You’re Expecting became the pregnant mom’s guidebook for all things baby in the ‘80s—and for good reason. When you get pregnant as a first-time mom, it’s helpful to get a sense of what the next nine months are going to be like. But what about after baby arrives? It’s just as important to know what to expect after you’re finished expecting, too (night sweats, blood, and leaky breasts, anyone?). Here, first-time mom and certified pre/postnatal coach Jenn shares ten things to expect postpartum.
Hi! My name is Jenn. I’m a personal trainer, certified pre/postnatal coach, and as of 13 weeks ago, a first-time mom. I’ve been training moms for years, but since having my son, I have a much clearer understanding of how difficult being a new mom can be—and a deeper appreciation for the moms in my life, too. Here are ten things from my postpartum experience so far that I wish I would have known:
1. Healing takes time. Physically and mentally! Postpartum recovery isn’t just six weeks. Everyone heals differently, and it’s okay if it takes longer than you expected.
2. Your uterus doesn’t shrink overnight. It takes about 6-12 weeks for it to return to its pre-pregnancy size. You will most likely still look pregnant for a while after giving birth, and that’s completely normal.
3. Postpartum bleeding (lochia) can last weeks. It’s like a long, heavy period. The color will change over time, and you’ll likely need to use heavy-duty pads for a while. I didn’t stop bleeding until the end of week six.
4. Sleep deprivation hits harder than you think. “Sleep when the baby sleeps” is easier said than done, but even short naps make a difference. Try to take mini-naps here and there!
5. Breastfeeding can be a journey of its own. Do what works for you. Everyone has their own routine! Even pump routines can look overwhelming, so do what works for your life and your schedule. Whether you breastfeed, pump, or formula-feed, fed is best.
6. Going back to work is anxiety-inducing. Especially if you’re a velcro mom like me. And if you breastfeed or pump, it makes it harder. Not impossible—but harder.
7. It can feel lonely, even when you’re never alone. Postpartum can be isolating. Don’t hesitate to ask for help or connect with other moms.
8. It’s okay to say no to visitors. Your priority is rest, recovery, and bonding with your baby—not entertaining guests.
9. You’ll need plenty of snacks. Breastfeeding or not, hunger hits hard postpartum. Stock up on easy, nourishing snacks.
10. You’re stronger than you think. Postpartum is tough, but so are you. You’ll find your rhythm, and in the meantime, you’re doing an amazing job.
