The irony of motherhood is that kids live 100% in the present and yet because they do I have always had this voice in my head telling me that: because they are, I can’t. Am I alone in this? How can we live our lives in a way that plans for the future needs of our families while also actually living in all of those moments as they happen? How can we trade living in a rushed blur, running from one thing to the next, hurrying everyone and ourselves, for connection and memories, with our feet firmly rooted in the present? Well, I definitely don’t have all the answers but I have spent a ridiculous amount of time studying this idea of “presence” over the past year and I am excited to be able to share all I’ve learned over this next month with you!

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July: Time

July 12, 2019

Drumroll. This month’s theme is: TIME. You chose it through our IG poll and now we’re going to get down to the nitty-gritty of how to make MORE of it, how to make it stand STILL at times, and other times make it go FASTER. You ask the question and I’ll answer, Q&A style.

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June: Calm

May 30, 2019

I wanted more calm in my life, but I had always believed that when certain things happened there was a necessary and natural and UNAVOIDABLE feeling connected to it.

Like, when my baby cried of course that meant I SHOULD feel stressed because good moms feel what their baby is feeling, right? Or when my husband is feeling down then I should be down too in order to support him. Or when I feel anxious I should also feel bad about being anxious because what kind of a CEO or good mom feels anxious?!

I asked myself, what if there is no necessary and natural and unavoidable feeling? What if my emotions are ALWAYS a choice? What if most of the emotions I experience have just been happening unconsciously?

I questioned if feeling stressed was really helping my baby when she cried. Or if joining a friend in her bummer day wasn’t actually as compassionate as I thought. Or maybe setting a peaceful example for my children is more powerful than arguing with them about arguing? And what if I could actually feel calm about feeling anxious? Mind blown.

“Essentially, what if I could create calm no matter what the circumstance?”

Every time my brain wants to go to frustration or overwhelm or stress or sadness I ask myself if that feeling will serve me best in this situation. If it won’t, I do my best to reroute. Sometimes I truly want to feel sad, this isn’t about avoiding negative emotion, it’s about feeling on purpose and choosing emotions that create the results I truly want and the person I want to be.

You don’t need anybody to change to have more calm in your life and you don’t need to mirror anyone’s emotions to be a good mom or a friend or a good anything. Mirroring people’s emotions is not empathy. When I am calm I am so much better at being empathetic and showing up in a way that I am proud of and that helps other people.

I am to the moon excited to explore this more with you this month and have you noticed I started doing LIVE COACHING on IG Live? It’s vulnerable and uncomfortable and hilarious and transformative. Meet me on IG Live every Thursday this month at 9am PST.

 


 

 


+ Pick a calming mantra: Calm is always an option. Nothing has gone wrong here. I can be calm even when nothing else is. When your brain is tempted to go to an old knee-jerk feeling, think of your mantra.

+ Come to live coaching with me every Thursday at 9am pst on Instagram Live where I coach mothers on finding more calm.

+ Read one of these inspirational calming books.

+ Find more calm in your relationship with my favorite new podcast: Couples Coaching with Natalie Clay.

+ Take a walk every single day this week! I don’t care how cliche it is – it works!

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May: Identity

May 3, 2019

I learned a new word. MATRESCENCE. It means the process of becoming a mother. For some reason it feels so validating to have a word for it. It’s that transition period nobody talks about between pregnancy and postpartum. Where I’d never felt so certain that I was in the right place at the right time and, yet, I wasn’t quite sure who “I” was anymore. With each birth, all four of them, I have felt the discomfort. The inadequacy as I learn how to care for another human & the newfound confidence as I somehow survive it all, some days even thriving / the confusion of what I should be doing hour by hour & the total clarity of my mission to care for this baby / the insecurity as I look at the extra skin and broken veins & the acceptance as I embrace being more than a body / the isolation as I hold a crying baby in the middle of the night & the sense of freedom as I realize how few things truly matter.

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Top Three Feelings

This week on Instagram Live we’ll be talking about Vulnerable Motherhood. Postpartum is an easy time to feel like everyone else has power over your emotions (your baby, your partner, your hormones!) but you. This guide and our conversation will help you get some leverage over how you’re feeling and help you learn how to “feel” on purpose so you can enjoy this postpartum period rather than just survive it. To get the most out of the conversation, download this worksheet and jot down some thoughts or you can do it live with me as you watch!

You can join me on our Instagram page here.

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April: Strength

April 3, 2019

I used to think strength meant loud and outspoken and unrelenting. Sometimes it is. But motherhood has taught me that strength is also soft and thoughtful and peaceful. It takes strength to say no. Strength to slow down. Strength to wait. Strength to say sorry. Strength to be uncertain. Strength to be imperfect. Strength just to show up. Strength to be afraid. Strength to accept what is. Strength to live with your whole heart.

This month we’re going to explore strength in motherhood. Join me on Instagram Live this Thursday at 9am PST. I’ll be sharing my top 5 Tips for Rising Strong (aka getting off the bathroom floor when life is hard).
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